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Worried someone may be thinking about suicide?

Trust your concern. You don't need to be an expert to help — and you don't have to do it alone. You can call 988 yourself for advice on how to help someone else.

Call 988 for adviceImmediate danger: 911
Call 911 now if the person has a weapon or means with them, has already harmed themselves or taken something, or says they're going to act soon. Stay with them if it is safe to do so.

Warning signs

These signs mean someone may be at risk — especially if they are new, have gotten worse, or follow a painful loss or change:

  • Talking about wanting to die, or to kill themselves
  • Looking for a way to do it, such as searching online or getting pills or a gun
  • Talking about feeling hopeless, trapped, or having no reason to live
  • Talking about being a burden to others
  • Increasing use of alcohol or drugs
  • Acting anxious, agitated, or reckless
  • Sleeping too little or too much
  • Withdrawing or feeling isolated
  • Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
  • Extreme mood swings — including sudden calm after a period of distress
  • Giving away possessions, saying goodbye, or putting affairs in order

How to ask

Ask directly and calmly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” or “Are you thinking of killing yourself?”

Many people fear that asking will plant the idea. Research says it doesn't: a review of studies found that asking about suicide does not increase suicidal thoughts, and may even reduce distress. Asking directly tells the person they can talk honestly with you.

If they say yes

  1. Stay calm and listen. Thank them for telling you. Don't argue, lecture, or promise to keep it secret.
  2. Ask if they have a plan or have thought about how. This tells you how urgent things are.
  3. Make the surroundings safer. Help remove or lock up firearms, stockpiled medications, and other means. Putting time and distance between a person and lethal means saves lives.
  4. Connect them to help now. Call or text 988 together, or help them make a plan to see a professional. If they're in immediate danger, call 911.
  5. Don't leave them alone if you think they're at immediate risk.
  6. Follow up. Check in over the following days and weeks. Help them build a safety plan.

Look after yourself, too

Supporting someone through a crisis is heavy. Talk to someone you trust, and remember you can call 988 for your own support as well.

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